By OREVA GODWIN
What is Erectile Dysfunction? It is a condition that occurs when a man can’t keep his erection firm enough for sexual intercourse. Erectile dysfunction can be a sign of physical, psychological, and medical distress.
Talking about medical issues, blood pressure (BP) drugs, can cause erectile dysfunction, including decreased libido, difficulty in getting or maintaining erection and delayed orgasm.
Diabetes can also cause erectile dysfunction, especially if not well managed. It decreases libido and causes men to be unable to maintain prolonged erection.
Taking too much sexual enhancers or taking drugs like Viagra recreationally can cause erectile dysfunction (ED). Yes, some men take Viagra as a form of sport.
Age is another factor that causes erectile dysfunction. Which is normal and is not a medical problem. It’s just nature.
Erectile Dysfunction has destroyed so many homes. It has made a lot of couples fall into depression, made women cheat on their partners, and even made many women insult their partners.
To tell the truth, it’s quite embarrassing for a man to turn his woman on, and when it’s time for action, he can’t penetrate, all because the manhood is down. It’s frustrating for the man and to the woman.
Like I said in my previous article, “Let’s talk about sex,” sex is the power house of a happy home. Erectile dysfunction has made men experience low self-esteem, lose respect in the eyes of their women, suffer depression and even make them suicidal.
John is a man in his early 40s, suffering from erectile dysfunction. Instead of seeking help, he was busy looking for a woman who will accept him the way he found himself. He started going to different churches in hope that God would heal him.
John started playing saint; no premarital sex, claiming he wants to keep himself for God, unknown to the ladies, it’s far from what he was saying.
He kept on that Holly face until he met a beautiful young lady and started courting her. For three months they had no sex. Then he proposed. This young lady was so happy and thought she had met Mr Right. Of course, she had been praying for a man who was not after her body.
After their marriage, John pleaded that they should not have sex immediately, even though it was their first night together as a couple. Reason? He was too tired. John asked that they should rest and face the sex the next day.
Days became weeks, but nothing happened. So one day, John had to force himself to make love to his wife. After foreplay and assured that the manhood was up, he made an attempt to penetrate. Madam was impressed with the size and ready to accept Prince Charming. Unfortunately, he did not make it to paradise. They tried and tried. One moment he was up, few seconds later, he was down. John had a weak erection. It was a pretty tense night for the couple that day.
After too many heated quarrels, with the wife accusing him of deceiving her into marriage, using religion as cover up, he finally sought medical help. The medical consultant asked if he newly started using any medication. It was soon discovered that the problem started after he started taking BP drugs. But John blamed his condition on spiritual attack. It was the doctor who saved the day for the couple.
Studies have shown that men suffering from Erectile dysfunction must quit smoking and alcohol consumption. They must quit taking hard drugs, like cocaine, marijuana, etc. They should exercise more, eat healthy food like watermelon, almond, garlic, apples and berries, salmon and other fatty fish, etc. They should avoid getting depressed, as this can worsen the case.
Men must stop the use of sex enhancers, which have been found to be slow killers. You end up killing yourself with the use of aphrodisiacs. it is sex and not war. Do the best you can and rest. Don’t destroy your health just to please a woman in bed.
The ugly truth is that you can’t please most women. Giving 20 minutes of your best, and someone else is giving her 1 hour of real action, where do you stand? The 5 positions you boast about, does it compare to 10 different styles someone is offering her? So why damage your vital organs, just to be an undertaker? Sex enhancers lead to erectile dysfunction and sudden death.
Don’t use your today to destroy your tomorrow. Talk to a sex therapist. Oral medication that increases blood flow to the manhood will be recommended but must be recommended by your doctor. Injecting directly to the manhood to create an erection must be recommended by a doctor. Likewise, the use of penis pumps.
Women have a role to play. Yes, it’s frustrating having a man who can’t perform, especially when you’re sexually active. But he is your partner. You have to support him and encourage him to seek help and not damage his ego. This is the reason why it’s good to marry a kind and loving partner.
As a woman, help the man feel relaxed. Give him a relaxation body massage. After massaging his body, concentrate on his inner thighs. You must aim to be seductive.
Research has shown that the inner thighs are packed with “nerve endings,” making it an “erogenous zone.” When touched, these nerves can send signals to the brain, resulting in sensation.
As the sensation builds up, walk your way to the perineum and play with it.The perineum contains a complex network of nerves that makes it highly sensitive to touch and pressure. So also is the scrotum.
Once you move to the scrotum, remember to be sensual. You will notice that the manhood will gradually come up. Now move to genitalia and massage it. Don’t forget to maintain sexuality with a little bit of pressure. By doing that, you are making the blood flow through the tissue and helping to aid a good erection.
When massaging genitalia, please don’t apply too much pressure. Make sure to oil your hands very well. Once the blood flows, you will notice an erection that is desirable. You may then work your tongue around the cap, especially the urethal meatus.
The urethal meatus is very sensitive and can trigger a crazy sensation. Just lick it seductively. Do this while still maintaining the pressure on the manhood. This will stimulate and arouse the man and make him super hard. Once he is hard, you can start the coitus.
The mistake men with erectile dysfunction make is to penetrate a woman when they are not properly erect. You have to massage the manhood to aid blood flow and gain a hard erection before trying to penetrate the vagina. Save yourself the embarrassment by observing the right rules.
The use of condoms can worsen the condition of some men. I do not encourage unprotected sex, except it’s with your spouse. But the truth must be told. The few seconds spent trying to put on protection can be very costly . It can turn some people off resulting in a weak erection that might not come up again, especially when anger and frustration set in.
Unprotected sex is ideal for some people. That is why it’s good to have regular sex partner, especially for someone suffering from erectile dysfunction.
Erectile dysfunction won’t go on its own, until you change your lifestyle and seek help. To those who patronise herbal experts, I can not outrightly condemn. If it works for you, fine, but if it doesn’t, please go seek medical help. Secure your relationship/marriage. Like they say, “a stitch in time saves nine.” It’s never too late to seek help.
